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SF #226 – We Are Who We Are

November 19, 2015 by Success Freaks

On this episode of Success Freaks, we open with one topic and organically change direction to another. We learn about Mordant’s visit with IRUSA, and that ‘People are people’ (♫ so, why should it beeeeee… ♫). Our conversation uses a different group of people to show similarity. In the Level Up, we discuss ‘acceptance vs tolerance’. And in On Beyond, we argue about owning our behavior vs. the consideration of all.

What begins as a show about team building, quickly morphs into a frank discussion about Mordant’s experience at the Islamic Relief USA offices, the similarities in people different from us, diversity, racism, and moving from prejudice to tolerance and onto acceptance. Join the Success Freaks as they take a look at some of the difficulty inherent in moving out from your comfort zone of knowing only people who are familiar to you to having new friends with different backgrounds.
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Captains Courageous

December 22, 2013 by R. Mordant Mahon

What is Courage? What does it mean and what does it take to have courage? I’ve heard it said, “Courage is a lie that old men tell to young men when they send them off to die.” A clever maxim, yet I believe there is more to courage than that. One of my favorite John Wayne quotes is:

“Courage is being scared to death…but saddling up anyways.”

If you believe what the late-great Duke said, Fear is an active ingredient in courage. How can this be? Isn’t courage the absence of fear? Aren’t the bravest of the brave those without fear? The correct answer here is…no.

Courage is not about feeling no fear at all—a double negative, yet true nonetheless. You cannot have courage without fear. Courage and bravery mean having fear while maintaining the ability to move forward in spite of your obstacles, real or imagined, and get the job done. If you have no fear, then it doesn’t take any special fortitude. Nothing out of the ordinary in the way of grit or guts to keep you on track for deeds of daring do. You’re just doing your job—no problemo. It is when you have fear and then combine it with the need to keep moving forward anyways—this is when courage comes into play.

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TOSOL #72 – Venturing Through Undiscovered Country

November 30, 2012 by Success Freaks

TOSOL #72 – Venturing Through Undiscovered Country

Venturing Through Undiscovered Country is about moving forward, even though all you have is the destination in mind. You kind of know where you’d like to go, but…

1) You’re not sure how to get there

2) You don’t know quite what it’s going to look like once you arrive

Tonight our “Trail-Blazing” Motivational guides, Mordant & McFall, share how planning their Success Freaks Motivational Conference for June 2013 in the Atlanta, GA area has slammed everyone on the SF team right to the razor-sharp edge of their comfort zones. Join us as we explore what causes us to hesitate when striving to take that first big step into the unknown, how we summon the courage to commit to move forward, and what it feels like after a fear has been conquered.

“Once you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson~

The thing is…decide what you want to do and do it. Take that not-so-blind Leap of Faith and venture forth into that Undiscovered Country.

1) Blaze Trails where ‘ere you go—for yourself and others

2) Find a Native Guide or three to help you along the way

3) But, ultimately, get off your comfortably-numb butt and do something with your life

4) We dare you!!!

5) If we can do this, you can do this. Period

“After decades of research into how the human brain works, scientists now know that for our brains to figure out how to get what we want, we must first decide what we want. Once we lock-in our desires, our mind and the universe can step in to help make our dreams a reality.” ~Jack Canfield~