Last month I shared my first Goal for 2013 which was To Learn More. I’ve purchased a couple of new books to read…mostly self-helpy…and I’m eyeing a mystery or two that kinda intrigue me. It’s a start, but you’re here to find out what my next goal is. My second Goal for 2013 fits quite nicely into our February theme here on Success Freaks. My Second Goal, quite simply, is to learn to love myself more…to treat myself better than I have…to make my wants, my needs, my happiness a priority. Easier said than done…
“Find joy in everything you choose to do. Every job, relationship, home… it’s your responsibility to love it, or change it.” ~Chuck Palahniuk~
It’s a really good quote and so very appropriate for this Goal. (Thanks Mordant) It seems like I’ve spent most of my life trying to please others. I always try to go out of my way to make sure my friends, family, and even complete strangers are happy. If someone expresses a desire for something, I try to make sure they get it. While this may be quite noble, thoughtful or whatever, it’s also allowed me to push myself into more debt than I should be swimming in. Up until recently, I’ve never said “No” to anyone that asked anything of me. Even if I knew I would have to add to my credit card debt, even if it meant I would have to sacrifice something I wanted/needed, even if it meant I would have to suck it up and do something I really wasn’t comfortable with…even if it meant that I would be cast in a dark light just to make someone else shine.
Why do I do these things? I just like to see everyone else happy and…it’s just who I am. So…while I love making other people happy and I’m driven to help them achieve their dreams, I need to start loving myself too. I need to start realizing that I need to shine too. I need to take time off to do things I want. I need to stop working so much so that everyone else can go out and have a good time with their family/friends. I need to start thinking about and loving me.
Is it going to be easy? Nope. I am, however, going to give it my best shot and change what I can…one small step at a time. Am I going to run into opposition from others? Yep, already have. Does this mean I’m going to stop helping everyone and start being selfish? Absolutely NOT! I’m still going to do the things I do for everyone. I’m just going to create an organized schedule making sure to schedule time for what I want too.
“Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.” ~That Ferris Bueller was one smart kid.~
Until next time…
Love and laughter to all.
~ Sharyn Watson