Check out Mordant & McFall’s first official appearance on Blab.IM! We started out with some topic ideas and then just let the conversation take its course. It was a very fun time with a slight lag at points. Meeting new people and introducing ourselves to the community proved to be an enlightening and entertaining time.
In this hustle-and-bustle-of-staying-connected-social-media life that is now such a large part of your existence, you need a resting period. Remember those? In kindergarten, it was nap time. In elementary school, recess was the perfect time for you to relax your growing, soaking-it-all-in brains and recharge. In college…it was your after-classes nap time—Life coming full circle. What about today?
How do you reboot, rebuild, and recharge?
Do you even?
“Have patience with all things, but, first of all with yourself.”
~Saint Francis de Sales~
Sitting in an office chair in the backyard of my friend EJ’s house, and my thoughts turn trippingly towards Patience. Not your run-of-the-mill, garden-variety, patience-is-a-virtue Patience either. Nope.
Not for today.
Not for you.
For you I save the good stuff. The stuff that runs a little deeper. More personal.
I want to discuss having patience with yourself and your process. Cutting yourself some slack as you begin or continue on your path towards self-actualization. It’s easy to pinpoint what needs doing when you think about patience with everyone outside your personal bubble. There are steps you can take to ease the pain of their annoying stimuli, no matter how much they are exasperating you at present. If all else fails—the smiling, the prayer, the counting to 10—you can always up and walk away. Any of these techniques are done simply enough and your world is set back in balance—if you put forth the effort it takes to keep everything flowing “merrily, merrily down the stream.”
What is Courage? What does it mean and what does it take to have courage? I’ve heard it said, “Courage is a lie that old men tell to young men when they send them off to die.” A clever maxim, yet I believe there is more to courage than that. One of my favorite John Wayne quotes is:
“Courage is being scared to death…but saddling up anyways.”
If you believe what the late-great Duke said, Fear is an active ingredient in courage. How can this be? Isn’t courage the absence of fear? Aren’t the bravest of the brave those without fear? The correct answer here is…no.
Courage is not about feeling no fear at all—a double negative, yet true nonetheless. You cannot have courage without fear. Courage and bravery mean having fear while maintaining the ability to move forward in spite of your obstacles, real or imagined, and get the job done. If you have no fear, then it doesn’t take any special fortitude. Nothing out of the ordinary in the way of grit or guts to keep you on track for deeds of daring do. You’re just doing your job—no problemo. It is when you have fear and then combine it with the need to keep moving forward anyways—this is when courage comes into play.
If this is your first foray into an article written by me, then stop now. You are coming in mid-story and I can’t afford a good editor and voice-over guy to give you a “previously on” moment. So please find The Motorcycle Story Pt. 1 to really get this right.
Raise your hand if you believe in the Law of Attraction (LOA). Now raise your hand if you actually have stories to confirm your belief. The thing with faith is, unless you have tangible breadcrumbs to look back on, at some point you start to question your path. Not only do you need confirmation in your own life that what you believe is indeed true, but when you are learning from or following teachers, you need confirmation from their lives that what they are teaching is true. The saying goes, “Those who can’t – teach,” but that is a load of crap. Have you ever truly learned something from somebody that couldn’t do what they were telling you? I have finally lived long enough and paid enough attention that I now have some solid law of attraction stories. This one is the motorcycle story.
As I sit in front of my computer screen with time on my hands, I have chosen to write instead of playing Borderlands 2. When I don’t have time I truly desire to write. I have many sections left in the new book I am working on, a commitment to the newsletter each month, and a strong desire to put out a blog post each week. Why is it that when you are inspired, you never have time? Now I have the time and energy and I find myself drawn to the Xbox. I have chosen to write because I need to. I need to practice the self discipline. I need to build the habit of putting words to virtual paper to build the skill of being able to do it whenever I can. And because I hear Mordant’s voice in my head saying, “Dude.” I would rather be habitually creative than habitually lazy.
I have four children. Yes, I do know how they get made, and no, I don’t need another hobby. Thanks for those fresh insights, though – I appreciate the sentiment. When my first child was born, everything was either head knowledge or all new experiences. You are given so many opinions about what to do as the baby is coming, from so many well intention-ed people – but without the experience to balance it, you really have nothing to go on.
Why is it you allow yourself to get caught up with the things you say you do not want in your life? You focus on your problems, knowing full well what you focus on grows and grows and grows…Your blood pressure skyrockets and your stomach bleeds fresh ulcers as you wring your hands in consternation. What’s up with that?!
Wouldn’t it be better to fix your attention on those things you want? Whether it’s to Be, Do, Have—whatever it is you desire—shouldn’t you be fixated on that? Even a little bit? And, since you’re co-creating your world by putting your conscious and subconscious thoughts in gear, shouldn’t you put more effort into training your brain to lean towards the positive? If that is the way the Universe works (it is), then why-oh-why are you wasting your time mainlining negative drama? If you’re going to be addicted to something, then shouldn’t it be something that lets you off at a much brighter place than the spot where you began this ride?
Pain and stress always come before the new life
I am personally going through some transitions this year that are scary and Awesome at the same time. My wife is pregnant with our fourth child so you will be getting many a birthing metaphor in this article. My company Success Freaks has taken my life to new levels over and over again already this year. I realized somewhere in the process that 2013 is the year in which the way my finances comes to me changes. And to be honest, I don’t know what that means. I see all the signs that a major life change is coming and that is what I am going to share with you.
The burn you feel is from you fighting the process.
“No Pain, No Gain” is the biggest load of overused horse hockey I have ever heard. Do you know how many successes in my life people have tried to invalidate because they came easy to me? I bet in your life you have experienced some of these examples; “That was too easy so something is wrong,” or “If you have no problems then you are doing it right.” Shut up. Yeah, I mean you. I’m looking right at the inner voice that is repeating this crap to you, keeping you from owning your success. I am here as the “Dark Side of Positive” to destroy some of this lie that keeps you from being successful. And trust me – resistance is futile.
Right after finishing my brownbag speech at Gangplank Chandler, I chat up Jay about my experience and what Gangplank is all about. Check it out: http://gangplankhq.com/ Distributed by OneLoad.com
Finding the right challenge for success.
Have you ever been to a place or an event and thought “I can do that way better?” I do that with almost every church I have set foot in. Until now..but more on this later. First you need a little background to make the story interesting.
I grew up the son of a preacher man in the Southern Baptist flavor of religion. Most of the churches I grew up in were small and well-meaning. This translates to if there was anything new to be done, someone in my family had to do it. Because of this, I became adept at solving problems. If you needed old equipment to work, give me a bit and I can fix it. Did you want to try something new and interesting – I will figure out how. During this process, church became all about what I could do.
On the flipside, I never had any freedom to figure out who I was – much less learn how to express myself. See, when you grow up as the preacher man’s #1 son, everyone has an opinion on who you should be. Every action had judgement coming, and every misstep was not only an offense to the people of the church, but also a slight to my family’s reputation.
So I spent most of my time and energy being the best at everything. I could set up the sound system, revamp the computer, direct the choir, lead the praise team, and speak from the pulpit on occasion. I was the jack of all trades, and contrary to old wives’ tales I was a master at most. As I grew into physical adulthood and as I searched for who I truly was – well as they say old habits died hard.
I would find a church that seemed different from others. And to be fair, each was a shade or degree different than the last. So as I searched, I did get slowly further away from what I had known. However, the habit was I would go in looking to be accepted, and to a point I would be. Then I would find a way to “plug in,” which is easily translated to “find a job to do.” And then my natural skills and talents kicked in and I would either outshine the pastor, I would be too aggressive in my forward thinking, or you can put any number of thoughts here that represent people not really wanting to change or truly take the scary path of seeking truth. The third strike would often start kicking in shortly there after.
In gaining some acceptance for a part of who I was, and then gaining praise and admiration for what I could do, I would inevitably show more of the bear to people. In one case, I would lay open my heart and soul with the fear and angst of my shaky marriage, my then-uncontrollable issues with my family, and my general pain against the world. And as good Christians do – they ran like scared picnickers (Yogi Bear reference yo!) It was there that I did receive one piece of good advice from a strong Christian man: seek counseling. That was the last church I went to for many years.
Now the “I can do that better” played a part in many of these stories. You see, when we as humans are damaged, we tend to hide behind the actions that make us feel better. Like a pastor will “be strong” for his flock or in general lack content in his presentation because he is afraid to show us who he was. When I would start to feel shut out or belittled, I would show them how to get things done. I have always been good at connecting with people and some have said I am a natural born leader. Not a good bear to have when you want to feel good about “how good you are at what you do.” Because I can usually do it better. I have done “The church thing” since I can remember, was damaged by Christians at the age of 12, and have been working the game since then. So yeah, I am better at you in almost all aspects of “doing the job.”
Anyway, that brings me almost to where I started this article. In the years away from church I committed myself to seeking truth and to find out who I was without the shackles of who I was told I should be. I spent so much blood, sweat, and tears on myself, and it was worth it. It was a long road and at some point my wife and I determined we both had a desire to find a church. Now I told you all that story to get you to understand it wasn’t an easy decision to make. I had been safe to heal and work on myself, but in returning to the church I would be facing decades of habits and demons that I didn’t know how to face. But by this point I had learned to trust myself and my wife – so we moved forward.
There were many a church service we would try, and the short story is I always found something I could do better. Until I found the “Church in the Now.” My wife had attended this church as a teenager for many years and wanted me to give it a try. I avoided it for different reasons until I quit kidding myself. See, in seeking out a place to grow we had put together a priority list of why we were seeking a church. CITN fit these priorities, so to be true to my path I gave it a shot.
I can tell you it wasn’t love at first sight. It took a few different tries over a year or so before this relationship took. But something that remained true throughout this process was this … the ability to disappear. The tech team didn’t need me, the praise team was out of my league, and the bishop could lead me like no one else in this world has been able to. I found myself for the first time in my life not wanting to do anything to participate. I was truly there to get what I came for and leave. I have never experienced anything like this in my life. Ever. I didn’t know the first name of anyone, I never interacted with the events offered, and I grew and fed and healed like never before.
Now that isn’t the moral of my story. If you recall three days ago when you began reading this long article I started with – I could do better until now. In the last 6 months my wife and I came to a place in our relationship with the church that it was now time to give back. It was time to get involved because they needed us, but not in the job kind of way. But again I have to tell this slightly backwards.
Recently the habit of seeing people in the seats kicked in. Basically all speakers want butts in their seats to speak to. I am a speaker, so as I get involved my mind starts tracking the empty seats as a habit. During the first three months of 2013, attendance dropped and it concerned me. Wrongfully, mind you – I was allowing myself to worry about things that had nothing to do with me. Anyway, recently in one of the services where it was emptier than what I expected to see, I had an epiphany. The Bishop was speaking on parents bragging about their kids and how that was great. Then he started speaking about specific families in the church and the successes their kids were achieving. That clicked in my mind with the success I had seen in many of the dedicated adults there, and what I was seeing in my own life.
I realized that I was part of a successful group. That here, bigger and badder were the norm. I was surrounded by a small but driven group to be better. I am challenged, energized, and driven to fulfill all four of the keys to our phrase: Bigger, Badder, Better, More. That’s why my wife and I have been attracted to become more involved. We are not working – we are rowing with the team to become stronger. Here I cannot do it better than anyone else. What I can do is dig deeper to find out more of who I am. Here I can level up my life and it not only is celebrated – it is the norm.
If you find yourself unpassionate, unchallenged, and only in your church (or other volunteer group situation) out of duty or “responsibility,” then quit. Quit lying to yourself that only you can do that one job. Find passion, seek love, chase down the life that brings you energy – grab that tiger by the tail and hold on with everything you have.
If you don’t know how to start, or you just want to see what moves me, then tune in Sunday mornings 11am E and/or Wednesday nights 7pm E to my church. Stop wasting your life – find something that moves you today.
As I promised I am writing this article to dig deeper into what I shared in my Youtube video. As I shared, I recently achieved a new level of enjoying life’s experiences. For my wife’s birthday, her mother took us to Medieval Times. It is a castle-shaped restaurant that features an awesome show of jousting, fighting, and general kightly stuff. Google it. This is one of the times I was fortunate to have had a close-minded experience to compare to.
When my wife and I were engaged her family took us to Medieval Times. It is a bit pricey and I felt bad that I could “never afford to do this for us.” So instead of enjoying the show, I saw people sitting in better seats and wanted what they had. I saw many shiny things in the sword shop that I couldn’t afford and had to have them. Side note – I bought my first sword on credit there and regretted it. I totally missed the experience of everything, showed myself to, in the best of terms, make bad decisions, and took away from my wife’s experience.
And yet here I am, actively giving advice on my show Success Freaks and one-on-one through Wizperts.com. Isn’t this a paradox? Maybe it doesn’t make sense to the world around us but it’s the truth. And that is what you need to hear right now. You know deep inside that there are no magic answers, that no one else can feel your pain like you do, and that no matter how great the advice is you will wake up tomorrow and still feel like your world is collapsing. I can’t help you with that…
However, I am listening. I am sitting here letting you know you are not alone in this world. I am here to remind you that tomorrow is a new day, that you have hope that it’s a better day than today, and above all else that you matter enough that I will take your call. To me that is the bottom line. You need someone to remind you that you do matter. I can do that.
At the darkest moment of my life I was so stressed from my work and my marriage I emotionally lost all control. I felt my grasp on stability slipping away and there was nothing I could do to stop it. I ended up freaking out, screaming, losing it all, and ended up under a table reeling from the explosion in my soul. At that moment I needed someone to tell me it was ok. I reached out to coworkers and they advised I seek help. I needed to hear that it would be ok, so I reached out to my friends and got left in the dark. I needed to hear it would be ok and went to the hospital. No one ever told me it would be ok. [Read more…]
They say home is where the heart is; wherever I may roam where I lay my head is home; home – where my music’s played, home – where my love lies waiting silently for me; and of course where we tell mama I’m heading. Yeah, I am a bit of a music nut sometimes – if you don’t get the references, Google it.
For most I suppose home is family, where you grew up, and to where you return. And yet for most of us, where we are is not where we live. We stay in a place of perpetual stress, death grips on what we hold most dear and no real hope or vision of change. Except that is only a limited perception of where we are. I hope to show you this month how I transitioned from that state of being, I call it a “broke (as in no money) mentality,” to where I am now – of living in the excitement of seeing “the dream” draw more into reality.
First let’s be clear about the “broke mentality.” Where we are in this area of life is we have managed to attract some value into our lives. In a recent speech I gave, I had a volunteer stand up, had her hold a doll representing a husband, then a few cookie monster toys to be the kids, a vacuum to represent maintaining a home (no I wasn’t being sexist – I actually planned to grab a male volunteer), money, and car keys. As you can imagine her hands were very full and her instructions were to hold on tight and don’t let go. Then I pulled a cell phone out of my pocket and said “life is calling – catch.” The crowd reaction was awesome as I tossed the phone through the air at her and unfortunately for me she caught it without dropping anything. My intention was to show that as we have a death grip on what little value we have now, we have no room to grow. And, when life throws us a curveball, everything falls apart.
I went on to explain that the reason we as humans fail to reach the goals we set is because we are trying to arbitrarily add to the pile of things we are death gripping – yeah I just made that a verb yo! When we live like this, we are always pulled in too many directions, never feeling valued or satisfied, constantly worried about losing what little we have, and are always saying no. As I saw the heads in the room nodding in agreement, I knew it was time to explain where we really live.
All of us have a passion inside. We have something in our lives that attracts us above and beyond anything else. For some it’s sports, the kids, the vehicles, but for me it’s communicating & helping others be awesome. This is where we truly live no matter what we hold dear. I have made many a bad decision to ignore my wife because I lost track of time talking with someone and helping them. I have also tried to stifle this love and only pay attention to her (and the family later in life) only to be miserable and to make her so as well. The balance I had to find was to always communicate and help others. I couldn’t put it all into work, the show, or friends and not be able to do it the same or more in my “home.” Once I gave the same energy and effort into my “home” – basically lived it with my wife, family, and myself – everything changed.
Over the last five years I have slowly but surely refined how I utilize my passion. I started off doing a small podcast that grew into a community of shows and hosts. At the same time I learned lessons on how to use that passion to better my marriage and be a better father. You see, the general mistake I was making – and I feel most people make – is that I sent my talents one way. That was out over the airwaves, and that made my wife feel left out and ignored. I realized that to truly follow my heart I needed to live it – and that is where home is. I had to realize that I was “doing” a show that competed with my attention for my wife, my kids, and my work. I couldn’t ignore the internal conflicts anymore. Through the year of 2012 I struggled with this concept – the ultimate resolution being I had to let go of something good in order to get something better. By letting go of the Bear Crawling Nation and a few other things not only willingly, but also happily, I did more than free myself up to chase my dream. I discovered that once I stopped “doing” and started living, things like “spending money on a stupid hobby” changed to ways & means appearing to us (my wife and I), allowing me to do things that could never have been done before.
I just returned from the New Media Expo which was an impossibility. Not only was it costly for a “hobby” I knew it would never fly with the wife. Yet she ended up being the one pushing me to go, finding ways to make it happen, and ultimately forcing me into the reality of what happens when you live your passion.
Before May of 2012 I was holding tight to the outlets I had built for my passion while trying to hold tight to the family, work, etc. That was a recipe for disaster, and little disasters came often enough. But, through first living the passion at home, my whole world opened up. So, I hope you see that where you are right now isn’t where you really live. We all want to feel relaxed, stress free, and to say yes more than no. What we have to do is live what we want in order to achieve it. As my wife and I say now “when it’s right we say yes. Then we allow the universe and God to bring it to us.”
Home for me is my passion. It’s not a place, or even a set of people. Home is where I come alive, shine like a rock star, and truly gain join by giving to others. As I now live everyday out of my love of communication & “helping others be awesome,” my life changed seemingly overnight at NMX. I could go on and on with the details of my adventures, the deeper meanings of what happened there, and how for me it was truly a dream come to life. And truly, I set out to write this article based out of what I experienced there. But really, there is only one phrase that can sum up what the New Media Expo means to me:
Email me your thoughts and stories: Charles@theothersideoflive.com
The Following is the second half of a very long blarticle. The first half can be found at:
http://www.mordantworld.com/how-bad-do-you-want-it-part-the-first.html. If you haven’t already done it, I suggest you read “How Bad Do You Want It!? ~Part the First~” first. Enjoy!
First things first—decide on, then commit to, this “It” that you want. I’m sure you already know what it is. It’s been swimming around in the deep-end of your brain for quite a while now. If you’re not sure, then ask yourself this question: if you could Be, Do, Have anything you want…. If you had all the talent, looks, money, smarts, chutzpah—if you had whatever it took and you knew you would be a big success, what would you be? Answer that and you have your dream, that thing you are truly passionate about, set out in front of you. Now you know. And, now it’s time to commit (that’s right—the “C” word) to doing something about it. Now it’s time to turn your dream into a goal.
This is where your fantasy becomes a reality.
Next, you will begin researching, then plotting out the steps that will take you on this collision course with your future. Remember, a dream without specific attainable steps is just that—a dream. It’s those action steps that turn your wanna-be fantasy into something real—a goal. That’s what is going to take you to the next level.
So, first you set your beacon, your goal, the destination on your dream-catching map. Then, research what it’s going to take to get you to where you want to go…or at least the next step. You can also try starting from your goal, then working your way backward, laying out each of the steps until you arrive at today. I.e., first you take your goal, before that you _(actionable step)_, before that you _(actionable step)_, and so on, leading all the way back to where you are now. This is called “The Merlin Method.”
No matter how you do it, you’ll have your actionable steps leading to your now attainable goal. Now there’s only one thing left for you to do, and that is really do it. Take those steps, one at a time if necessary, more if possible. But, no matter what, the only way you’re going to obtain your goal is if you DO YOUR STEPS. If you’re able to move forward with no problem—smooth sailing. If not, then you’ve probably got something blocking your way. This will certainly give you the opportunity to shine a light on whatever may stand in the way of you achieving your goal(s). Especially if that “thing” is Y-O-U. (A hard pill, I know, but swallow it down and let’s move on.)
Now that you’ve decided to take a look at what is standing in your way, what are you going to do about it? Basically, “how bad do you want it!?” More than: TV, video games, time off from work, time out with your friends, Disneyland, Disney World, the big game, the Super Bowl, every must-see movie, books, blogs, Facebook, YouTube, _(your distraction here)_, the list is never-ending. What are you willing to sacrifice so that your dream may become a reality? If this really is your dream, you goal, your passion, then it shouldn’t be too difficult to drop everything else in pursuit of this one very important thing, right?
Yeah, you’d think that, wouldn’t you?
If that were the case, then people would be achieving their goals and attaining their dreams every day. Hell, you’d be already halfway there yourself. But, you’re not, are you? Chances are if you’ve taken the time to read this far into this blarticle, then you’re looking for a little help in the whole in-pursuit-of-your-dreams area. A lot of the problem is that we as people are not always that focused and we’re easily distracted. At the end of an oh-so hard day, who wants to knock out a couple more hours in front to a computer, just to pursue something that may never come to fruition anyway?
Successful people, that’s who.
If you want to be successful at any level with this thing, this “It” you say you “want to be when you grow up,” then eventually you’re going to have to log in some serious time and effort. But, for now, here at the beginning, I think you might begin with a couple to a few hours a week of trading your TV time in for something you keep saying is more important to you.
But, I don’t have enough time left in the week, you say. I’m tired when I get home from work, you whine. I don’t want to miss my television programs—don’t even get me started with this one! Let’s look at it this way…how much time do you actually put in as you trek towards your goal? If there’s 168 hours in a week (there are). And, you take 56 out for sleep (provided you get eight hours of sleep every day of the week) and 40 hours for the J-O-B. That leaves you with roughly 72 hours to devote to doing something dream dedicated. That’s three full 24-hour days. Do you think you might be able to squeeze in four to five hours for the week? How about an hour or two a day? One hour? Do you think you could set aside one hour a day for working on becoming this thing you say you’d most want to be in life?
Does this put things in perspective for you?
So, we’re back to the original question, how bad do you want it!! Do you really want to Do, Be, Have this incredible “It”? Or are you going to sit back, relax, grab the clicker and continue watching your life pass you by as you rev the engine to 15 mph, burning out down that Mediocre Highway? As always, the choice…the decision is up to you. And, so is the fight. You’re going to have to combat yourself of all people, slogging your way through your laziness, self-doubt, and lame limiting-belief system to get to a Bigger, Badder, Better, More level of your Life. But…the fight is worth it. It will change you, for the better—into the type of person you need to be to accomplish all you say you desire and Be, Do, Have the heretofore elusive “It.” What do you say—wanna give it a go? It’s not that hard once you get started.
Go ahead…show the world, and yourself, how bad you want it.
~R. Mordant Mahon~
How badly do you want it?
Really, how bad?
By “it” I mean that dream you keep talking about. That goal you keep putting off or never have enough time to pursue. That special “it” you’ve waited forever to sink your teeth into, taking a firm bite out of the best this life could offer you. How badly to you want to flying scissors kick it to the ground, hogtie it with rope you braided from your hopes & visions about your wanna-be life, and make it your bitch?
Really, how bad?
Bad enough to give up a little TV? Or your favorite video game? Or time with your friends? How badly do you want this thing you say you want? This pie-in-the-sky pipedream you know you’ll never do anything about, but you swear that you’ll get to it soon…. Tomorrow…. Someday.
Nike has a saying:
“Yesterday you said tomorrow.”
The problem is, as we all know, tomorrow never comes. All you ever have is today. Today to pay your bills. Today to raise your kids. Today to take that vacation. Today to become a writer, an artist, a _(fill in the blank)_. Today to Become. They say Time is a thief. But, so is apathy. And, so is complacency. If you do not stoke that fire burning in your belly, feed that desire yearning to create your destiny, then someday—maybe even tomorrow—you will suffer the “joy” of regret at never having accomplished, hell, maybe never even having attempted to Do, Be, Have that “It” you’ve always wanted.
Sucks, doesn’t it?
Believe me when I tell you that you are not alone. Nope, not by a longshot. I, too, suffer from the same affliction you do. That’s right, sometimes life is so good enough that I don’t feel the need to push it further. I mean, why would I? I am comfortable right where I’m at. I do have it pretty good after all. Why would I push to go anywhere that might take me away from here? Especially when it means I will have to cross over into that dark and foreboding place known as Outside My Comfort Zone. Especially when it means I might have to work to get where I want to go and, most likely, work very hard at this thing I’m just a-playin’ with now.
Why? Because what lies beyond this velvet trap is everything I say I want out of life. Unless I’m just fooling myself, adventure and glory are there…. As well as self-respect and a deep sense of accomplishment. Not altruistic enough for you? How about the ability to better help others and teach them to help themselves? Will that satisfy your yearning to make a difference in this world? Whatever your personal “It” is, you’re going to have to do more than hope and dream, plot and plan to achieve it.
Because, despite expressions to the contrary, “It” doesn’t just happen.
So, what are you going to do about it? What, in fact can you do about it? You still only have the same amount of time you were stuck with at the beginning of this blarticle. Less, actually. Is there anything you can do to put yourself back on the fast track to achieving your dream?
Yes, of course there is.
First you have to realize that, not only can you do something, but it’s your responsibility.
You heard me. Ultimately, it all falls on you—the success, the failure, the mediocrity of being stuck somewhere in the middle—that’s all on you, baby. But, don’t worry; that’s the good news.
No foolin’—this is the good part. The fact that you are the person responsible for your situation in this life is a good thing. In fact, it’s probably the best thing you’ve read thus far.
I know it’s the most important.
Once you take full responsibility for everything that’s going on, you begin to realize that you can effect a change. You can make a difference in your own life. Wouldn’t you rather have it that way, than to have to sit around and wait for some knight in shining armor to come to your rescue? Well, guess what. You’re your own knight in shining armor. It’s up to you to come and save the day.
Daunting, huh? Don’t worry; it gets better.
What does all this have to do with “how bad do you want it!?” Everything. It is up to you to motivate yourself beyond the dreaming stage. You are the person who has to create goals, set achievable baby steps, begin moving forward and adjust as you go. “How bad do you want it!?” means just that. How much more than mere lip service are you willing to give in order to Be, Do, Have this “It” you say you want?
Time is the Dream Killer.
If you think you don’t have enough time to get everything you’d like to accomplish off the backburner and onto your plate, you’re absolutely right!
You heard me…you are correct-o-mundo. There will never be enough time for you to write that book, get that doctorate, learn to play the guitar, pursue that singing career, become a big brother, see the world. Never, never, never…and I mean NEVER!
Then, why bother?
Because it can be done, but you have to do it. You have to create the necessary space in your life for those things you want to accomplish (or, at least, say you want to accomplish). You’re going to have to shift things around. You might even (not might, really—probably) have to get up early/stay up late in order to move forward, step by step, toward your goals. There will be sacrifices. Those self-same sacrifices I mentioned earlier in the blarticle. This, specifically, is what “how bad do you want it!?” is referring to. Do you want it more that your TV, your video games, your nights out with friends? Are you worthy of these dreams you are laying claim to? If not, then perhaps they’re not worthy of you.
Something to think about, isn’t it?
~R. Mordant Mahon~
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That’s right—it’s time to Think Big-Grrr! Why is it that we are always limiting ourselves? We limit everything from our capabilities (what we can do) to our possibilities (who we can become). Think about it. If you thought you were capable of accomplishing so much more, that nothing could stop you, let alone stand in your way, wouldn’t you do a whole lot more with your life? Wouldn’t you be a lot more? Or are you truly happy with putting in your 40 hours at the J-O-B and kickin’ back weekends with your peeps, pallies, and posse? Because if that’s enough for you—and there’s nothing wrong with that being your whole world—you haven’t quite grasped the concept of Thinking Big. Grrr!
When you open up your mind to the possibilities of what you might could do if you really wanted to, if you knew what you could do and you went out and did it, then you might just conquer the world…or at least your neighborhood’s worth of it. (And, if you were really full of “it,” you might even convince yourself that you could get away with a run on sentence or two like that last one. FYI: I say do it—grammar be damned!)