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TOSOL #30 – Guest: Cindy Lu – The Four Man Plan

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Tonight Mordant & Charles take you on a fun, interesting, and highly motivational interview with dating & relationship coach, comedian, author Cindy Lu as she explains her strategies & gives insights into the puzzling world of dating via her popular book, “The Four Man Plan.”

 

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Highlights:

***Technical SNAFUs open the live show once again *le sigh*

***Recap of TOSOL #29 – “Always Be Learnin’, Yo!”

***Cindy Lu chats about how she enjoyed listening to TOSOL #22 “Date Free or Die!” with Four-Man-Planner Paige

***Cindy Lu explains what the Four Man Plan is and where the concept came from

***Charles Nelson Reilly’s contribution to “The Four Man Plan”

***What the 4MP does for you?

***Cindy Lu and Mordant talk about sex (yes, sex) in the Four Man Plan

***Sarina Stone calls in and shares her experiences with the 4MP:

^^^^^How Chivalry AND Competition work together in the 4MP

^^^^^ “True Blood”

 

***Mordant asks about The Four Woman Plan

 

***Cindy Lu & Social Media:

^^^^^Hints about a possible TV show

^^^^^The 4MP on YouTube

^^^^^Podcasting in Cindy Lu’s future?

 

***Charles talks about his “Two Girl Plan”

***You need to find someone “Honest, Loving, & Willing”

***Do you “Suck at Love” and can you get better on the 4MP?

***Explaining the Mantris Graph

***Cindy Lu begins her relationship with her husband using the 4MP

***Cindy Lu’s new book for couples & relationships

***Big Mac vs. Filet Mignon

***What’s next for Cindy Lu?

***Malibu Healing Center

***Pimpin’ Cindy Lu:

^^^^^TheFourManPlan.com

^^^^^YouTube

 

***Closing advice for men from Cindy Lu

***Next Week:  Interview with Sarina Stone, author of “Why Real Couples Drink Straight Tequila—The Tao of Commitment”

***Tune in app

 

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TOSOL #29 – Always Be Learnin’, Yo!

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Mordant & Charles discuss why you should Always Be Learnin’, Yo!

 

Highlights:

***Recap of TOSOL #28 “Overcoming Hiccups”

***Mordant & Charles make us drool with talk about Their Favorite Cookies

***How Charles Always Be Learnin’

***Mordant is listening to “Talent Is Overrated” and “Start With Why” in his Automobile University

*** “Talent Is Overrated”

*** “Deliberate Practice” and what it means to you

***Playing outside of your League

***You are the average of the people you surround yourself with

***Playing into the panic zone

***Water rises to its own level

***Charles & Mordant’s video game (Borderlands) analogy

***Practice vs. “Deliberate Practice”

***Toastmasters

*** “Practice makes permanent.”  ~Wrathburn’s Mom~

***Fake it till you make it

***Ready, Fire, Aim

*** “Raw, Real, & Untamed.”  ~Charles McFall~

***Negative & Positive Words

***Charles “schools” Mordant on his negative verbage

***Making Choices vs. Being a Victim

***What you say has power

***Mordant & Charles “arm wrestle” over Affirmations

***Bear Crawling Nation & “The Other Side of LIVE!” merch on CaféPress.com/BearCrawling

***Always be working on you & your relationships

***The Comedy Fix – Gary Dring

***Always Be Learnin’, Yo!

^^^^^…Cuz it Keeps You in the Game

^^^^^…Cuz it Keeps You Entertained

^^^^^…Cuz it Exercises Your Brain

^^^^^…And, cuz You Have Everything to Gain

^^^^^In Synopsis:  Always Be Learnin’…Cuz it is one of the best ways you can Level Up Your Life!

***Mordant sings (ouch!) the intro for the Success Freaks segment

^^^^^Mordant got past his hiccup and re-recorded his Instant Gratification speech

^^^^^ “Double Your Income Doing What You Love”:  Prep for Chapter 2’s Your Annual Love Letters, being worked on in February

***Next week:  Interview with Cindy Lu author of “The Four Man Plan”

***In two weeks:  Interview with Sarina Stone, author of “Why Real Couples Drink Straight Tequila—The Tao of Commitment”

 

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Honorable Mentions:

tosol@theothersideoflive.com

TOSOL #28 – Overcoming Hiccups

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Mordant & Charles chat about overcoming the “hiccups” that come along in everyone’s life and threaten to derail the forward motion of your Dreamcatching Train.  How fitting that this show is fraught with “Hiccups” of its own.

 

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Highlights:

***Mordant & Charles open the show with a slight hiccup

***Recap of TOSOL #27 – Guest Starring Onça O’Leary in “Burlesque Dreams & the Accidental Circus”

***Mordant explains the inspiration for this episode

***Charles does his “Sparta” imitation and then dives into a “Lucky Winner” story

***Explanation of a Life “Hiccup”

***Charles shares some of his past hiccups

***Mordant’s writing hiccups

***Charles relates how his belief in his destiny had brought him through the rough spots

***T Harv Eker ~ “Secrets of the Millionaire Mind”

***Hiccups are a Gift

***Getting past procrastination

***Bryan Tracy ~ “Eat That Frog”

***Learning to respect & be grateful for, if not love, your job

***Changing “I wish” to “I AM”

***Uncle Mordant gets a little “Woo-Woo”

***No Bumps in the Road = one of the worst things that can happen for you

***Thomas Stanley ~ “The Millionaire Mind” & “The Millionaire Next Door”

***Bumps in the Road involving relationships

***What to do so you’re not overcome:

1)   Take a Breath

2)   Take a look at what went wrong

3)   Take time to re-strategize

4)   Take back your ground…and go beyond

***How to stop yourself from over analyzing

***Rockgiirl calls in and talks about celebrities who don’t pay their dues

^^^^^Nicolas Cage/Coppola analogy

 

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Honorable Mentions

 

TOSOL #27 – Guest: Onça – Burlesque Dreams & the Accidental Circus

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For their sophomore show on the No Agenda Stream, Mordant & Charles welcome singer/dancer/comedienne/event-producer Lauren “Onça” O’Leary to The Other Side of LIVE!  This talented and very inspiring mother of two shares her incredible life stories about how she manages chasing and catching her dreams while raising her boys.

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Highlights:

***Mordant & Charles begin the silly stuff early tonight as technical difficulties delay the entrance of Onça for a very few minutes

***Recap TOSOL #26 “Staying Comfortable = the Death of Your Dreams” and what Mordant & Charles got out of the show.

***Onça greets everyone with her lovely laugh as the Skype Gods finally favor TOSOL

***Onça chats a little about all the projects she’s involved with

*** Baraka Mundi

***The Mezmer Society

***Further comedic audio tuning during the live show

***The Accidental Circus

^^^^^Directed by Paolo Garbanzo – a Jester of Muncaster Castle in England

***Traveling outside the US – one of Onça’s dreams

***Paying your dues artistically, emotionally, & financially and some of the challenges that come with that

***New shows are a “Trial by Fire”

^^^^^Tortuga Twins—every new show involves a “Season of Suck”

^^^^^You have to learn to Trust the Process

^^^^^It’s not just the end result, it’s the Journey that gets you there

***Onça chats about balancing chasing her dreams & having a career while raising 2 kids

^^^^^Taking her children “on the road” and into other countries

***The difference between Burlesque, Bellydancing and Stripping

***Onça calls herself the Administrative Overlord of Burlesque

***Dealing with negativity from others concerning her job and raising her kids in her work environment

***Suncoast Burlesque Festival w/The Accidental Circus (3 day event)

***Onça talks about what people should consider when turning their passion into a business

***How chasing her dreams affected her relationships—with her former husband & her children

***Transformation & change are difficult—even if that means moving out from a bad situation to a good one

***Teaching her kids through her behavior—to see that it’s okay to choose happiness

***Helpful hint: Be the very best YOU and not a replica of someone else—find your own message

***Find Onça:  www.hardestworkingwomaninshowbusiness.com

***Mordant asks Onça to sing a song—she does and “Wows” the chat room

***Mordant and Charles chat about their guest

*** “Success Freaks” segment

***Apps:  Tune In, Stitcher, Bear Crawling Nation

 

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TOSOL #26 – Staying Comfortable = the Death of Your Dreams

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Welcome to the inaugural episode of  “The Other Side of LIVE!” (TOSOL) on Adam Curry’s No Agenda Stream.  Boom Baby – this is the big time!  That’s right, Mordant & Charles, will be coming to you LIVE every Tuesday at 9:30pm Eastern Time.

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On this Second show of our Second Season, Mordant & Charles talk about how staying within your comfort zone can kill your dreams, give us “Instant Gratification” updates, explore Negative vs Positive Drama, encourage the desire to change, and offer up glimpses of their personal lives.

 

Highlights:

***Welcome to the No Agenda Stream

 

***What is “The Other Side of LIVE!”?

 

***Last Episode:  TOSOL #25 – “Your 2012”

 

***Sometimes just “Being Happy” isn’t enough

 

***Charles throws Mordant under the bus about his Success Freaks Segment commitment

 

***Mordant is nervous beginning his first broadcast on the No Agenda Stream

 

***“I’m Gonna Be (500 Miles)”  ~The Proclaimers~

 

***Charles discusses his homeschooling & early celebrity

 

***Charles:  “If I get nervous, I’m doing something wrong.”

 

***Tortuga Twins

 

***Facebook.com/bcntosol = “The Other Side of LIVE!” fan page

 

***Rules of a Creator’s Life:

^^^^^  (1)  Do More Than What You’re Told To Do.

^^^^^  (2)  Try New Things.

^^^^^  (3)  Teach Others About What You Know.

^^^^^  (4)  Make Work Into Play/Play Into Work.

^^^^^  (5)  Take Brakes

^^^^^  (6)  Work When Others Are Resting.

^^^^^  (7)  Always Be Creating.

^^^^^  (8)  Make Your Own Inspiration.

^^^^^  (9)  Love What You Do, Or Leave.

 

***Mordant’s website gets a “Face Lick”

 

***If you want more out of life than Sleep-Eat-Job-Eat-Sleep-Job-little bit o’ Play-Sleep-Eat-Job, etc., then you’ve got to put yourself outside of being comfortable

 

***Falling Flat on your Face is STILL moving Forward

 

***Part of TOSOL is sharing Mordant’s & Charles’ growth process as they move forward—sometimes stumbling, but always onward & upward

 

***For Charles, life is not a highway, it’s shooting the rapids

 

***Life doesn’t happen for a reason, but it CAN if you apply the day-to-day lessons & experiences to YOUR life

 

***You’re allowed to “Rest at the Plateau” for a while after reaching it

 

***The difference betwixt Negative Drama and Positive Drama

 

***Charles & Mordant talk about Cheating—can it “just happen”?

 

***Is there some Universal Law that says you have to Repeat Mistakes several times before you get past them?

 

***If you really want to accomplish something in your life, get off your butt and do something about it

 

***The Knight in Shining Armor coming to save you…is YOU!

 

***Don’t set yourself up to fail

 

*** “The Happiness Advantage”  ~Shawn Achor~

 

***Two Hundred Sit-ups.com

 

***Success Freaks Segment:

>>>>>“Double Your Income Doing What You Love”

>>>>>Raymond Aaron

>>>>>We also have a link to download a pdf file of the book for FREE

>>>>>Going thru Chapter One: “Have It Now! The Instant Gratification Society”

>>>>>>>The Five-Step Technique for Having It Now:

>>>>>>>>>>>>(1)  Select your long-term goal

>>>>>>>>>>>>(2)  Decide on the abbreviated version

>>>>>>>>>>>>(3)  Tell at least one other person

>>>>>>>>>>>>(4)  Do the first abbreviated action immediately

>>>>>>>>>>>>(5)  Celebrate your success every time

 

***John Davis Action Hero

 

***the Smoking Rant

 

***TOSOL Caller Mark:

>>>>>The show’s topic is speaking directly to Mark

>>>>>He is beginning to move outside his Comfort Zone

 

***Charles discusses a Weighty subject

 

***People will not change for the better until they are ready

 

***Hating your job doesn’t make you a bad person

 

***Think about finding some Positive Drama

 

***NEXT WEEK:

>>>>>Next week Onca O’Leary at Suncoast Burlesque Festival

>>>>>Accidental Circus

 

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TOSOL #25 – Your 2012

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Welcome to the first TOSOL show of the New Year – “Your 2012”!  This episode, Mordant & Charles discuss the Bear Crawling Nation joining the No Agenda Stream, resolutions & goals for the year, and introduce the new Success Freaks segment.

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Highlights:

***Last time using Stickam…and Technical Difficulties

 

***Training & Practice will get you through a crisis

 

***What are you going to do with Your 2012?!

 

***“Begin the Beguine”

 

***Charles talks about his 2011

 

***TOSOL is moving from Stickam to the No Agenda Stream, where it is switching from a bi-weekly Podcast to a weekly Internet Radio format

 

***Recap of the last episode, TOSOL #24 – “TOSOL Year 1”

 

***Blue Yeti Pro & shockmount

 

***Mordant has to “keep up his grades” if he wants to keep doing podcasting

 

***When chasing & catching your dreams you have to keep a balance with the rest of your life

 

***TOSOL Caller Mark:

>>>>>Belief in a Good, Positive World helps you find it

>>>>>One of Mordant’s fave affirmations:  “I am so happy & grateful that I am attracting Ideal People and Divine Relationships into my life.”

>>>>>Mordant talks about meeting his birth mother

>>>>>Tortuga Twins DVDs

 

***How to find TOSOL on the No Agenda Stream: http://bearcrawlingnation.com/nas

 

***The new “The Other Side of LIVE!” Facebook fan page

 

***About New Year’s Resolutions…or the lack thereof

 

***Charles’ Anniversaries

 

***Success Freaks Segment:

>>>>> “Double Your Income Doing What You Love”

>>>>>Raymond Aaron

>>>>>We also have a link to download a pdf file of the book for FREE

>>>>>Going thru Chapter One: “Have It Now! The Instant Gratification Society”

>>>>>The Five-Step Technique for Having It Now:

^^^^^^^^^^  (1)  Select your long-term goal

^^^^^^^^^^  (2)  Decide on the abbreviated version

^^^^^^^^^^  (3)  Tell at least one other person

^^^^^^^^^^  (4)  Do the first abbreviated action immediately

^^^^^^^^^^  (5)  Celebrate your success every time

>>>>>Mordant outside his Comfort Zone: he is going to be the headlining speaker for 1,000 people ever month…his Instant Gratification Society abbreviated version = giving a speech once a month on a smaller scale

>>>>>Charles is going to be working full time for the Bear Crawling Nation…his Instant Gratification Society abbreviated version = doing this one hour a week

>>>>>Mordant answers the question: Is this a mind trick?

 

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TOSOL #24 TOSOL Year 1

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Welcome to the final 2011 Season-1 episode of “The Other Side of LIVE!”  In this show Mordant & Charles discuss the highs, lows, growing pains, and tranformations that TOSOL has undergone over the course of the past year.

 
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Highlights:

***Intro this episode, “TOSOL Year 1

***Last episode review, Charles’ “Holiday Hang-ups,” & Christmas Nazis

***Mordant supports the Holiday Season with his new coffee mug he got in a Christmas gift exchange…and then get Christmas cheer all over his lap!

*** “No Mistakes, just Opportunities for a Segue”

***TOSOL’s beginnings—switching from “Mordant World Radio” to “The Other Side of LIVE!”

***Going from “pages of notes’ to a more organic, freeform format and watching the show evolve from there

***Charles was scared of Mordant’s Tortuga audience

***Paul Harvey references

***Gary Oldman’s character in “The Fifth Element”

*** “Miracle on 34th Street”

***“Love Actually” is a great Christmas movie

***Happy Birthday to Mordant!

***TOSOL getting the nomination for the Podcast Awards

***Where the show has “fallen short” this past year—Charles wants to see more of Mordant, more of his personal stories

***Mordant talks about his feeling unsure with some episodes being a “good show” and why (i.e. “The Dating Show”)

***Mordant’s 2011 Last New Year’s Resolutions (Soda, Sweets, & Motivational Speaking)

***Writing a new book…and a new look for Mordant World Meet-ups

***Introducing a new segment to TOSOL in 2012

*** “Double Your Money Doing What You Love” ~Raymond Aaron~

Chapters:
Introduction: The End
Chapter 1: Have it now! The Instance Gratification Society
Chapter 2: Your Annual Love Letters
Chapter 3: Your Life Missions
Chapter 4: Special Talents
Chapter 5: Curing Procrastination Forever
Chapter 6: The Six Mainly Pathways of Life
Chapter 7: Achieve Your Goals For Sure
Chapter 8: Six Goal Recording Rules
Chapter 9: Recording Goals So They Achieve Themselves Automagically
Chapter 10: Annual Backwards Goals
Chapter 11: The Beginning

***Where to get worksheets: www.aaron.com/doubleyourincome

***More on Mordant’s Birthday

***More guests in future episodes…such as members of the Almost Homeless Comedy Tour

***London Broil’s “the DML podcast show”

***Our good friend Sharyn calls in with praise. She’s really quiet, but awesome.

***Charles & Mordant invite listeners to suggest TOSOL topics via mordant@mordantworld.com

***Here on TOSOL we share everything—“Living out loud, proud, and in front of a video screen”

***“Stormageddon” makes an appearance

***Mordant teases with hints about good things on the horizon for the TOSOL & Bear Crawling Nation in 2012

***Charles and Mordant thank Rockgirl, Sharyn Watson and everyone that helps out with TOSOL

***TOSOL now available on http://stitcher.com/

***Bug Charles and get the Bear Crawling Nation app at bearcrawling@gmail.com

***Closing out “The Other Side of LIVE!” 2011 Season #1

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TOSOL #23 To Thanx or Not To Thanx

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Two weeks after Thanksgiving finds Mordant all snug and warm in New Orleans, LA while his co-host/producer, Charles McFall, is nestled in the Bear’s Den in Monticello, GA.  Tonight we talked about traditions surrounding the Holidays, different viewpoints on celebrating the good…the bad…and the “Ho Ho Ho” of the Season.

Highlights:

** Pimping out Charles & the “Bear Crawling Nation Live!” podcast

 

** Recap of “Date Free or Die”

 

** Charles has a hard time with the mentality of the Holidays

 

** Mordant loves being amongst Humanity around the Holidays.

 

** Total Money Makeover Episode #8 “Your Money or Your Life” w/guest star, Ronn Bauman of the Tortuga Twins

 

** Charles talks about his trip to Egypt for Rosh Hashannah

 

** Stone Mountain Christmas

 

** Charles is the Darker Side of Positive

 

** Mordant talks about what he is thankful for

 

** Charles explains his Holiday rituals

 

** Is it okay to be negative about the Holidays?

 

** Black Christmas Tree

 

** Addams Family Christmas

 

** Yin Yang

 

** Using Bear Crawling Nation.com Amazon search engine to shop

 

** Is there a proper way to greet people during the Holidays? (i.e. Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, Merry Kwanzaa, Happy Holidays, etc.)

 

** Mordant has a Coexist bumper sticker on his truck

 

** How Charles & Mordant spent their Thanksgiving

 

** Black Friday

 

** Mordant talks about favorite Christmas memories growing up

 

** Rockgirl calls in and talks about Holiday traditions that change over the years.

 

** Charles FINALLY talks about what he is thankful for

 

** Mordant’s Holiday “Running with the Bulls”

 

** Woot.com

 

** Mick’s Irish Pub

 

** Munchkin

 

** “Geek & Gamer Girls”

 

** NPR radio

 

** What Mordant got out of our last show “Date Free or Die”

 

** Nil Desperandum Special Christmas Show on Sunday, December 18th

 

** Bear Crawling Nation Android App

 

** December 22nd Bear Crawling Nation guest, Riki Robinson

 

** Huckleberry Finn – Mark Twain

 

 

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Honorable Mentions:

The Four Man Plan

www.bearcrawlingnation.com

www.facebook.com/mordantworld

www.youtube.com/mordantworld

www.mordantworld.com

TOSOL on iTunes

 

TOSOL #22 Date Free or Die!

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In this episode of “The Other Side of LIVE!” we begin with “Dating Done Right” and a look at Cindy Lu’s book, “The Four Man Plan.”  Halfway through our interview with faithful Four Man Planner Paige, our topic takes a darker turn towards abusive relationships and how to move past them.  We hope you enjoy this fantastic show, now entitled “Date Free or Die!”

 

Highlights:

  • ***Finally doing “Dating Done Right”

 

  • ***Rush Start with Charles doing several things at once

 

 

  • ***Stress Tank Talk

 

 

  • ***An interview with Four Man Planner Paige

 

  • ***“The Four Man Plan” Book Review

 

  • ***Paige’s overview of  “The Four Man Plan”

 

  • ***Mordant’s reasons for liking “He’s Just Not That Into You” and “The Four Man Plan”

 

  • ***How does one “suck at love”?

 

  • ***Paige’s experiences while using the 4MP (Four Man Plan)
  • ……….Dating different men at once and inspiring their competitive spirit will…
  • ……….Taking time to get to know each other before you have sex will…

 

  •  ***“A man will treat you only as well as he has to to get you in bed the first time.”  ~Cindy Lu, “The Four Man Plan” (paraphrased)~

 

  • ***Getting men to step up their dating game & the quality of their courtship

 

  • ***Sex is great, but what are you two going to do with the other 23 hours & 45 minutes of your day?   😉

 

  • ***You have to take responsibility for what is going on in your life and for how you are being treated in your dating relationship—you can’t just let it happen

 

  • ***Collecting Quarter Men (sometimes you find a diamond in the ruff)

 

  • ***Charles shares his story about how he met and began dating his wife

 

  • ***Being in an Abusive Relationship—getting out while the getting’s good

 

  • ***Being in an abusive relationship is not your fault, but it is your responsibility to get out of there

 

  • ***Rebuilding your self-esteem & self-worth

 

  •  ***Paige speaks as a Child of Abuse and about moving beyond that scenario

 

  • ***Paige Parker’s “Dating Without Drama”

 

  • ***Choose not to be a victim

 

  • ***Phoenix Area Listener Linda Cochran Schimmel calls in:
  • ……….Married into an abusive relationship
  • ……….Daughter has married into a similar situation

 

  • ***Mirror Neurons:  It’s what you do, not what you say, that has the most profound effect upon your children

 

  • ***Charles shares about fighting & making up in front of the children

 

  • ***Pointing someone in the right direction without stepping on their toes

 

  • ***Sex and the 4MP

 

  • ***We here at “The Other Side Of LIVE!” are in favor of SEX!

 

 

 

 

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TOSOL #21 Death Happens…OR…the Strangest Dating Episode Ever!

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This episode of The Other Side of LIVE! began as being titled “Dating Done Right.”  However, due to a series of life events and our guest being waylaid with a migraine, Mordant & Charles switch tracks to discuss how “Death is Hard on the Living.”

Highlights:

 

  • **A Death in the Family
  • **Don Juan & Miguel
  • **Dealing with a death is more than just going to a funeral

 

  • **Charles Speaking about Gay Marriage to his Preacher Poppa
  • **Every Path is Holy
  • **Not Tolerance – Acceptance

 

  • **Shadoe42 relates hearing about his grandfather’s death while on a music gig
  • **Charles tells how he heard of his Uncle’s death
  • **Schrodinger’s Cat

 

  • **Mordant Chats about his mother’s death
  • **Visualization, Concentration, and Stirring the Quantum Soup
  • **Time spent with those still here
  • **Charles speaks about time spent with his Grandfather before his death
  • **The Pearl Harbor story
  • **Mordant’s Father and Alzheimer’s

 

 

 

  • **Shadoe42 Calls In with his “death story”
  • **Bear Crawling Nation Live #249
  • **“Defying Gravity”
  • **Alex “Da Movie Guy”/”7the Row Center” Autrey calls in and chats about his Father’s passing
  • **7th Row Center

 

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